Strength TogetHER 9- Session 3

 

A PART OF ME WAS LOST

On 2nd January 2021, we around 25 girls gathered via zoom to discuss about the time when a part of us was lost. It was a great beginning for the year 2021.

Facilitated by ‘LOKOPAKAR’ youth organization which focuses on the development of youth personally or professionally in Nepal, 'Strength togetHER' virtual program is created specially for girls and young women of different mindsets and backgrounds. During the sessions, they all come together to share various views, ideas, perspectives, experiences, and stories. This space helps them to grow as individuals by creating a platform to be themselves, talk about their issues, and find solutions to their problems.

At around 5:15 pm we started the discussion. We shared our stories about the time when we let go of something willing or unwillingly. Our moderator for the session was Miss Simran Khatri. She is the member of Global Peace Women Nepal and Hatti Hatti Nepali.She has currently finished her bachelor in Development Studies.She has been working to create awareness among women in different field such as mensuration  hygiene management, Leadership and consent. She is an excellent moderator who makes a comfortable space for us.

The speakers were really enthusiastic and all girls were really excited for the session.

• Our first speaker shared how she feels a part of her getting lost when she listens to particular songs during festivals and the vibes of the song fades away with time. 

•Our second speaker said that she is bold and confident but whenever someone tells her to do something she is not prepared for, she feels her confidence getting lost.

• Our third speaker shared her story of the time when she lost a part of her because her mother threw away all those small things that carried a lot of emotions and stories for her.

•Our fourth speaker shared her story about the time when her friend denied to edit a photo.This incident motivated her to learn editing and do her work herself.She did something never done before and stepped out of her comfort zone. In this way, she lost the underestimated part of her.

•Our fifth speaker said that she feels a part of her getting lost when the book she had been reading is about to get finished. 

After listening to everyone's story our moderator shared her own story.She used to collect all the handwritten letters in a box.One day she realized that the people who had written those letters were no more in her life and there was no use of keeping those things.So she decided to let it go and tore all those letters and threw it away.

In the discussion of about 70 minutes we were able to learn so much and form a bond. We learnt:

1. Nothing last forever so we must enjoy the moment while it last.

2. We should learn to draw a line between what is important for us and what can we let go.

3. If someone makes you feel toxic, let them go. They are not worth it.

4. Making wrong decision is not always bad as definition of right and wrong differ from person to person.

5. If some one is bringing best out of you, try to hold them.

6. If you throw a trash in the bin you won't go back to pick it up again. Same applies with people too.

7. You try to hold thing that create excitement.So don't feel excited for toxic people.

8. Feelings are like traveller. They come and go.

9. Whenever you are confused whether to let it go or hold it ask yourself two questions:

a)Does it really matter and how much they will help?

b)Does their presence really matter?

10. Except for in angriness, always follow the first thought that comes in your mind.

11. Do the things that gives you happiness.

12. Self consoling and self talk can help to let go toxic things.

13. Letting go takes time but detaching your attachment with someone helps to let go.

At last we ended the session at around 6:25 pm we took a screenshot to cherish the wonderful evening spent together and bid goodbye to each other.We ended the meeting with the couarge to hold the important aspect of our life and let go the toxic part. The session was really worth it.

Written by: Sakshi Wagle (Cohort Coordinator)

Edited by: Aastha Shrestha (LOKOPAKAR)